Why Diets Fail & What I’m Doing Instead

It seems like everyone goes on some sort of diet when January 1st rolls around.
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It seems like everyone goes on some sort of diet when January 1st rolls around.
Read MoreHalloween is upon us! While I will be nibbling on plenty of candy and spending the evening trick or treating with my little siblings, another holiday is occupying my brain space: It’s the eve of NaNoWriMo!
National Novel Writing Month, usually shortened to NaNoWriMo, is a month-long writing marathon that commences on November 1st. It celebrates putting the pen to the paper or the fingers to the keyboard and pushes you to write and write and write with the goal of hitting 50,000 words by November 30th. It encourages living in the moment of the first draft and halting your inner editor and critic for thirty days.
“What would you like to order?”
“How do you want to celebrate your birthday?”
“What do you want to do with your life?”
Questions like these tend to sneak up on me and catch me off guard. They strike me with a flash of anxiety and I’m suddenly tripping over my words. This is because I can be terribly indecisive.
In the age of crippling college debt and chaotic headlines, showing yourself love is harder than ever. It feels impossible to find inner peace in a world full of pressure.
Who can pursue passion projects when the rent forces many of us to have multiple day jobs? How can we appreciate our own bodies when society continues to support the idea that some of them are not good enough?
Capitalism sets us up to always want more, and this affects our mental well-being. We are not supposed to be satisfied with what we have and who we are; we must always try to be better, richer, known. If we’re not productive as possible, we’re useless. If our latest post on Instagram doesn’t get any likes, we are failures. It’s an endless loop that is exhausting.
Screw all of that.
In fact, I think you should screw that with a nice dose of radical self-love.
Practicing self-love in a significant way can be the ultimate middle finger to the societal constructs that aim to limit us, particularly for people of color, trans folks, differently-abled people, and women.
I believe that self-love is radical in various ways. It challenges the white patriarchal standards that define our culture. It empowers us to think about ourselves and other differently. It causes us to act out of kindness instead of fear or anger.
Don’t confuse radical self-love with basic self-care. This isn’t about brushing your teeth. Radical self-love is deeper. It is performing actions that are purely for your mind and spirit. It is selfishness that helps you own and celebrate yourself. This selfishness leads to you feeling your best in a culture that wants you to struggle.
I’ve been consciously practicing radical self-love for the past few months. It all started in March with a solo trip to Paris in the midst of heartbreak. That journey was a gift to a weary soul: it made me think differently about how I deserve to be treated by myself and others. It helped me believe that I have an inner-power that can guide me through dark times.
Since then, I’ve been striving to prioritize radical self-love. It isn’t always easy, but practicing it more consistently has continued to help me heal little by little.
I strongly encourage you, unique reader with lovely personal qualities, to consider how you treat yourself. What is the tone of your inner thoughts? Do you judge yourself? If you realize you’re kinder to strangers than you are to yourself, then maybe you should give radical self-love a try.
The best part about radical-self love is that it can be practiced in various ways. Acts can range from minuscule to grandiose. Your personality and interests will dictate what types of radical acts will be impactful for you.
Get inspired by this list of forty possible acts of self-love you can try. I’ve tried to include a huge range of activities ranging from physical to mental, free to expensive. Try one that immediately to speaks to you or maybe one that you’re afraid of. Practicing any of the radical acts of self-love could change your view of yourself and the world around you:
Thanks for reading. Feel free to share your favorite acts of self-love in the comments – I’m always open to new suggestions to try!
When I’m feeling down, I love to get inspiration from the wise words of others. Check out nine of my favorite self-love quotes below. Feel free to re-gram these quotes on Instagram, just tag @self.care.season if you do!
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