Taking Stock: The Importance of Checking-In

Taking Stock

For the past few weeks, I’ve been battling a nasty sinus infection/cold/cough. It hit me right in the middle of my parents’ visit to my new apartment over Thanksgiving and lingered through the first few days of December.

Getting sick is all around miserable (as I’m sure you know.) All I wanted to do was sleep but my dog and congestion had other ideas. I was in a grumbly mood about spending too much money on tissue boxes and cough drops and annoyed at myself for coughing through my little brother’s birthday dinner. I wasn’t getting better fast enough and that just made me more disgruntled.

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29Rooms in NYC: More than a Photo-Op

29 Rooms

You may have noticed that special events aimed towards providing the perfect environment for Insta-worthy photos are on the rise. More artists and brands are picking up on this trend than ever before, and the proof is in the pictures. Just look at fomofeed, a curator of special exhibits in NYC, to see just how many of these interactive, photographable experiences are happening at once in the five boroughs.

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9 Ways to Overcome Indecisiveness

Overcome Indecisiveness

“What would you like to order?”

“How do you want to celebrate your birthday?”

What do you want to do with your life?

Questions like these tend to sneak up on me and catch me off guard. They strike me with a flash of anxiety and I’m suddenly tripping over my words. This is because I can be terribly indecisive.

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Reasons to Have Your Next Deep Conversation in a Car

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Photo Credit: Vladimir Fedotov

Moments like spilling feelings to a crush, coming out to my parents, and revealing hard news to a friend all occurred in moving vehicles. I bet you’ve had some heart-to-hearts on the road too.

Some of the more serious conversations of my life have happened in cars. Just this morning a friend asked if he could pick me up and go on a drive to talk through some problems. I obliged, and he shared his feelings as we cruised down the highway.

What about driving puts people at ease to talk freely? I have a few thoughts on the matter.

A Sense of Intimacy

Cars present an interesting environment. You’re totally in public while you’re out on the road, yet being in a car is also a very private experience. The riders are alone and close together in a small space, and there’s no easy or safe exit while driving. Essentially, you’re locked in a moving box with windows.

Wording it that way sounds a little creepy, but the sense of closeness cars create are perfect for hard conversations. Talks can be kept totally private with closed windows. Furthermore, certain forms of physical contact, like hand-holding, come naturally in close quarters. Intimacy encourages openness.

No Eye Contact Necessary

The eyes may be the window to the soul, but eye contact can be pretty uncomfortable for some. If long periods of eye contact make you anxious, consider having your next heart to heart in a car, where eye contact is generally discouraged. If you want to make as little eye contact as possible, be the driver.

Eye contact doesn’t make me nervous, but it’s pretty likely that I will cry if I make eye contact for a while during a tough conversation. I always let myself cry if I feel like it, but sometimes I simply don’t want to cry. If I’m having an argument or want to express anger, crying (the sniveling kind, in particular) can inhibit me from getting my point across.

Fewer Distractions

Parents can talk to their kids without the slam of the bedroom door. Singles on a date can reveal their feelings without the interruption of a waiter. Talking in the car makes it easier to stick to the topic at hand.

There are fewer distractions inside of a car than other private areas. This is likely because of how small the space in a vehicle is compared to, say, a living space. There’s so much to do in a house (cleaning, cooking, watching television), while all you can do in a car is sit and listen to the radio. Of course drivers need to primarily focus on the road, but most can still easily converse while steering the wheel.

Give It a Spin

Do you want to open up to somebody about an issue but are afraid to do so? Try bringing up your feelings on the road. It just might be the perfect setting for you express yourself.

Have you ever had a deep conversation during a car ride? Share you experience in the comments.