30 Compliments to Give That Have Nothing to Do With Physical Appearance

I’ve been recently experiencing a compliment conundrum that’s been bugging me: A few of my friends and peers have been telling me that it looks like I’ve been losing weight.

The funny part about this is that I haven’t been losing weight at all. My clothing size has not changed in months and the weight my doctor took at a recent appointment wasn’t any different than the year before.

While I don’t think the weight loss comments directed to me had true malintent, I do think there is a bigger societal issue that’s coming into play. We live in a world where a lot of our worth is placed on physical attributes and I honestly hate it.

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How To Feel More Confident at the Gym

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I recently joined a gym after a too-long exercise hiatus. My weekly personal training sessions with Jenn that kicked off my new fitness journey have been amazing, but I knew I needed to supplement the rest of my workout routine and give myself some variation that wasn’t running on the old treadmill in the basement. It was time for a change.

As my shiny new membership tag was scanned at the Croton-on-Hudson New York Sports Club, I was suddenly struck with a deep sense of fear.

You see, as a plus size queer person, I’ve never felt particularly comfortable at gyms.

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Songs that Celebrate Self-Love

Songs that Celebrate Self-Love

Music can change my mood instantly. That’s why whenever I’m feeling a little down, I turn up the tunes and dance around my room. It’s the quickest way to make myself feel better.

I’ve been working on building mood-specific playlists to be able to access at a moments notice. I’ll continue to share them here as I make more. This first one is pretty special.

Check out my Self-Love Playlist on Spotify. It’s perfect for those moments when you need a little boost of confidence, for those times you’re doubting your self worth and need a little reminder from Kelly Clarkson and RuPaul of how freaking awesome you are. From upbeat pop hits to strong ballads, you’ll find yourself grinning as you hum along at the gym, in the car, or at your desk.

Here are some highlights from the track list:

“I’m Coming Out” – Diana Ross

Regarded as a class LGBTQ+ anthem, this will always be my favorite Diana Ross song and it deserves a top spot on this playlist. It’s upbeat and breezy and can put a spring in your step. Walk down the streets to this disco beat and let the world know you’re here!

“You Gotta Be” – Des’ree

One of the chiller tracks on this list, this song encourages you to express yourself and know that you are strong for doing so. Love will save the day, indeed. Self-love, that is!

“Born This Way” – Lady Gaga

This dance hit quickly became a pride staple, and deservedly so. While I’m not a religion person, the sentiment is stronger than those particular lyrics in my opinion. This classic Gaga track makes a strong statement, and it’s a nice reminder that I, too, am on the right track.

“Don’t Stop Me Now” – Queen

This is the song that pops in my head whenever I’m on cloud nine. The fasttempo, the fun lyrics, and Freddie’s vocals all make this a upbeat track a great one to celebrate your inner power. Listen to it when you’re feeling low and psyche yourself out!

“Titanium” – David Guetta, featuring Sia

This is definitely one of those songs that I’ve belted out in the shower after a breakup. Listen to Sia, don’t let anyone tear you down. YOU ARE TITANIUM.

“Good As Hell” – Lizzo

Lizzo is the intersectional hero we all need, and all of her music clearly reflects this. I strive to be as confident as Lizzo seems. Play this track when you’re getting ready in the morning and you’ll feel good as hell about yourself too.

“Up From the Mud” – Boy Band

One of my favorite bands in the New York area, Boy Band is a group of three young women who make really empowering music. This track, a personal highlight on their first EP, encourages you to be the “strongest flower rising from the mud.”

You can check out the whole Self-Love Playlist track list below:

What are you favorite songs about loving yourself? Share them in the comments and I’ll consider adding them to the playlist. Happy listening, folks!